How to shape your Kids Better (It is in the Parents' Hands to Mould Their Children into Perfection)

Parents often have a tendency to blame children for their failings-little realising that their own role in gheir personality development is of much greater significance than their offsprings'. Parents need to look within to see how they can be model parents and provide a healthy environment for proper mental, emotional and physical growth of their children. Focussing on this basic issue, this book holds a mirror to parents, and shows how they can excel in the art of parenting. However protection or restrictiveness can spoil a child; permissiveness or indulgence can make him anti-social, rejection can work on his personality, why he takes to lying, stealing or mud-eating.

The book is a total guide to the subject covering topics from effects of disturbed parenthood, role of right communication, common childhood behaviourial disorders like stuttering, bed-wetting, nail biting to behaviour improvement techniques, skills development, fostering creativity and helping in setting and achieving of goal- and finally a complete section on looking after handicapped children.

Hari Datt Sharma is the founder of Peace of Mind Mission situated at New Delhi. He is a retired senior teacher. He underwent training in Special Education from England under Technical Co-operation Award. He won many awards in the field of Special Education. He conducts seminars on Peace Of Mind as well as on Yoga, Vedanta, Kundalini, Upanishads, Mystic explanation of the Ramayana, Mahabharata and Devi Mahatam, etc.

Raising well-balanced children is an art. The sincerity Rof parents in discharging their responsibility towards their children will reflect in the development of the latter. In other words, as parents sow, so shall they reap - in the form of well-balanced or maladjusted children. Proper upbringing demands active effort, concern, sensitivity, skills, understanding and empathy on the part of parents. Children are always dependent on their caretakers to look after their physical, mental and emotional needs. Which is why, a child is a reflection of the parents' behaviour.

It is impossible to write a perfect prescription to mould ourselves into caring and successful parents. However, there are some guidelines that parents may find quite useful. One must note that there are many variations in parents, as there are in children. Furthermore, when we talk of parents and couples, we are not dealing only with two people but also with the net result of their interaction with each other. Also, remember that there are some prerequisites for effective parenting, just as there are for most tasks.

Every child needs emotionally stable parents who are mature and love each other. In homes where there is only one parent, his/her task becomes very complex, as s/he must take on many additional tasks ordinarily handled by the other parent.

Parents need to demonstrate their love for their children not only by their actions but also by the kind of environment they create in their homes. A child develops a feeling of security and confidence when he knows that he is loved.

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